intimacy

Trauma, Triggers and Core Desires in Kink

There is an age-old debate in BDSM: Does trauma make us kinky? Can we play with…
On “Asobi”- To give something play

A reflection on Yukimura ryu taught by Murasaki-sensei Asobi- To play 遊び (あそび) Sitting together on…
Recommended Reading List

I was asked recently for a reading list after one of my workshops. We were working…
Responsive Desire and Ongoing Consent

Consent is often taught as a binary- yes or no. And if a maybe is what…
The power of the erotic: Re-reading Audre Lorde

I was first introduced to Audre Lorde in my university Gender Studies class (classic, no?). At…
10 Lies, D*mn Lies, Society Tells Us About S*x and Relationships

When it comes to sex and relationships, we’re often lied to. We see these myths everywhere—on…
What is jealousy, really?

When we talk about non-monogamy one of the first questions that always comes up is, “But…
Navigating Relationships and Neurodiversity: My Coaching Path

On my journey to intimacy and relationship coaching My road to becoming an intimacy and relationship…