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Trauma, Triggers and Core Desires in Kink

There is an age-old debate in BDSM: Does trauma make us kinky? Can we play with…
Why I Work in Intensives In Addition to Weekly Coaching

Because transformation needs space, not fragmentation. There’s a particular kind of exhaustion that can settle into…
On “Asobi”- To give something play

A reflection on Yukimura ryu taught by Murasaki-sensei Asobi- To play 遊び (あそび) Sitting together on…
Recommended Reading List

I was asked recently for a reading list after one of my workshops. We were working…
Why profound change requires profound connection to humanity

You can feel it, cant you? We are in a moment of profound change. A moment…
Responsive Desire and Ongoing Consent

Consent is often taught as a binary- yes or no. And if a maybe is what…
The power of the erotic: Re-reading Audre Lorde

I was first introduced to Audre Lorde in my university Gender Studies class (classic, no?). At…
10 Lies, D*mn Lies, Society Tells Us About S*x and Relationships

When it comes to sex and relationships, we’re often lied to. We see these myths everywhere—on…
What is an intimacy and relationship coach and how is it different from therapy or counselling?

If you’re just getting started looking for someone to help you through relationship challenges, sexual dysfunction,…
What is jealousy, really?

When we talk about non-monogamy one of the first questions that always comes up is, “But…